I have a feeling I have written this blog before. If I have, my apologies. I probably have a lot more to add though. So this might actually be a decent read. Now that I am in college I can see my younger family members in school. I went from being that high school girl, to rolling my eyes everytime I see one. I feel like they are all the same. Same drama, same bla bla bla. If only these girls knew. So I have a little advice for those girls.
1. Take a good long look at your friends. There is a great chance that they will not be your friends anymore once you hit college. I had a friend who was like a sister to me who I planned on living in an old home with. We had one fight, and then the friendship that I had built with her was gone. I lost plenty of friends. Also know that you will gain new friends in college. My mother says that if you have one true friend in life, then you are good to go. She is right. I am thankful to have a best friend who I have known since 7th grade. I also gained plenty of friends in college. Some of them have withered away, but I have my best friends at my side.
2. That jerk you loved in high school, will still be a jerk in college. This one should be self explanatory, but I feel like I should elaborate. He isn't going to change. If he does change, then congratulations you have one of the few that got a grip. Most still stay the same. I learnt this the hard way. Odds are if you didn't make it in high school, your just not going to make it. You might be blindsided with love, but you haven't experienced love yet. I don't think you can really experience love until someone loves you back. It's not a one sided event. You will play all these scenarios in your head that could have happened. You could have had that military wedding you dreamt about, or you could have had kids with that guy and live happily ever after. It's all a lie. I know it's hard, but you just have to move on to bigger and greater things.
3. Drama isn't cool, and it doesn't matter. You know what really matters? Good grades. So you can go to a good college, and not end up working at mcdonals and being poor. I'm telling you, once you start growing up, you will see that all the drama that occurs in high school is dumb and worthless. You also start to see how dumb teenagers are. I was recently at a high school game with my family. It had been my first one since graduating. I take one look at the student section and all I see is guys wearing overalls trying to act like hicks, and then guys with shorts on that are way to short. What is that going to get you in real life? Nowhere. It's okay to have fun and act goofy, but come on. Listening to your music all the way up and making out in front of people is untasteful. Trust me, us older people are watching. Your not invisible. Your not cool.
4. Have fun. High school is the time to grow, and to really find out where you want to go in life. Don't wait to the last minute, but don't forget to take a moment and enjoy life while you can. Once you hit the college and job level, it is not fun. Tuition and bills are not fun. There are so many things I wish I could have done in high school that I never got a chance to do. Like have pink or blue in my hair. There is no way I could get by with that now. So seriously...have fun, enjoy life. Join as many clubs as you can bear, and give them your all. Take risks and run for student president. Go over and beyond expectations and take your life by the horns. Do what makes you happy (but be tasteful about it). Oh and drinking and drugs...so not cool. Just don't do it. There are no benefits for it...so just don't. It isnt fun. It will just wreck everything.
5. Be nice to everyone. Don't be a bully. I know there are some strange people in the world, but odds are they can't help it. So if you see a friend being mean to them, repremend them. Tell them to lay off. Talk to the teased and make sure everyone feels welcome. High school is a drag (it really is), you don't want to be that one kid who is a dork and feels like you stand out. Talk to that kid, eat lunch with them. Do something. Don't let them hate their high school life. And if your one of those bullies out there who thinks it is okay to make someone feel inferior. Shame on you. You will be the reason they take their life, and their blood is on your hands. So just remember that. You are pushing that person beyond the breaking point. I was watching this movie on netflix called Bully. Their kid got told to hang himself, and that he was worthless. Who does that? Who would want someone to feel like that? If you are a parent reading this, make your kid watch that film. It is really inspiring.
I'm not trying to write this as a put down. I think high school was a fun time (for the most part). I was that dumb high school girl though. Now I just feel silly. So, talk to your kids about what they are going to expect. Tell them to have fun, but be tasteful. Tell them to enjoy life, but not to throw it away. Tell them to make mistakes, and to learn. I know I did.
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